Did Carrie Fisher give her mom the courage to let go?

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  • Peggy Drexler: Reynolds had previous strokes but could have died of 'broken heart' syndrome
  • Carrie Fisher's death may have given Reynolds permission to let go, Drexler writes

Peggy Drexler is the author of "Our Fathers, Ourselves: Daughters, Fathers, and the Changing American Family" and "Raising Boys Without Men." She is an assistant professor of psychology at Weill Medical College of Cornell University and a former gender scholar at Stanford University. The opinions expressed in this commentary are solely those of the author.

(CNN)It's a remarkable coincidence if also a remarkably dramatic turn of events -- perhaps befitting two Hollywood legends: a day after Carrie Fisher died at 60 from complications resulting from a heart attack, her mother, Debbie Reynolds, was also pronounced dead.

But was it more than coincidence? Reynolds reportedly died as a result of a stroke. At 84, Reynolds had faced several health complications in recent years, including previous strokes. Though, given the timing, many have wondered if Reynolds died instead of a broken heart.
    Is such a thing possible?
    Peggy Drexler
    Indeed it is. According to the American Heart Association, "broken heart syndrome, also called stress-induced cardiomyopathy or takotsubo cardiomyopathy, can strike even if you're healthy." As Lenox Hill Hospital director of women's heart health told the New York Times, sudden loss can create "an overflow of stress hormones, and the heart can't take it.... the heart is literally stunned."
    Reynolds is said to have suffered from a stroke while discussing her daughter's funeral arrangements with her son, Todd, at his Beverly Hills home. But even if stroke was her primary cause of death, it's entirely possible that it was brought on by the stress and overwhelming sadness of a broken heart.
    Todd has said his mother "loved taking care of my sister more than anything. So, she gets to do that, and that's what she wanted to do." That's not to say Reynolds loved Carrie more, or that her love for Todd wasn't enough to keep her alive. Grief can be emotionally and physically crushing -- and the death of a child is one of the most profound losses humans can face.
    The two women shared an intense bond. They lived next door to one another for several years. In an Instagram post, actress Debra Messing, who played Reynolds' daughter in the TV sitcom Will & Grace, wrote, "Debbie went to be with Carrie. She always worried about her. Carrie left too soon and now they are together again."
    Messing's post also highlighted an important aspect of Reynolds' persona that defined much of her relationship with her daughter. Messing described her as "a warrior woman who never stopped working." When Reynolds was coming up in the 1950s and 1960s, being a working mom was rare and not necessarily endorsed. By Fisher's own description, seeing her mom work as hard as she did -- in more than 30 films between 1950 and 1967, even as she was separating from Fisher's father Eddie -- was awe-inspiring and formative. In an interview that aired in November, Fisher told NPR's Terry Gross that her mom was "an extraordinary woman. Extraordinary. There's very few women from her generation who worked like that, who just kept a career going all her life, and raised children, and had horrible relationships, and lost all her money, and got it back again. I mean, she's had an amazing life, and she's someone to admire."
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    But of course it also wasn't easy for either one of them. In good times and bad, including a 10-year period when they did not speak, Fisher and Reynolds' relationship was known to have been particularly intense. But what brought them back together was what Todd has since described as "a beautiful love story," one that was perhaps so emotionally devoted that only after her daughter's death could Reynolds give herself permission to let go.