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ISSUES WITH JANE VELEZ-MITCHELL
Sex Rehab for Tiger?; Thousands May be Dead in Haiti
Aired January 13, 2010 - 19:00:00 ET
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JANE VELEZ-MITCHELL, HOST (voice-over): Tonight, shocking Tiger Woods news. Is he in sex rehab? "People" magazine reports that the golf superstar is in an upscale Arizona clinic. The Meadows Clinic, where "People" says he will be for several weeks, specializes in substance abuse and compulsive disorders. But what about all of those other reports that he was on his yacht in Florida, in New York, in Africa? There`s almost as many stories as the number of women linked to him. We`ll investigate the still-unfolding scandal.
And devastation in Haiti. More than 100,000 dead in a massive quake. We`ll show you a fast and easy way you can help save lives in Haiti just by texting. The story you`ll only get here on ISSUES.
Plus a killer on the loose as "Playboy" model Paula Sladewski`s family pleads for answers. The beauty`s brother begging anyone with information, please come forward. The 26-year-old found murdered in Miami, her body burned beyond recognition. We`ll talk to a close family member about this horrific case.
And she`s just 23, but is Heidi Montag addicted to plastic surgery? The reality TV star underwent surgery for the second time, but this time she had ten procedures in one day. Why would this already-beautiful star want a total transformation? More on her new look and what she has to say about her painful journey.
ISSUES starts now.
VELEZ-MITCHELL: Is Tiger Woods in sex rehab? Shocking brand-new reports tonight from "People" magazine. Have they finally tracked down the scandal-plagued golf legend? "People" says their sources know where the superstar athletes is, and that`s rehab.
"People" reports Tiger`s been holed up at the upscale Meadows Clinic in Arizona, a rehab center that specializes in drugs, compulsions and sex addiction. It is the same very rehab actor David Duchovny checked into when he was being treated for a sex addiction after cheating on his gorgeous wife, Tea Leone.
But is this latest Tiger report true? We have also heard rumors that Tiger is in, let`s see, New York, the Bahamas, even Africa.
Now, we called the Meadows Clinic, and they said, "We can neither confirm nor deny that Tiger is here," end quote. Photogs are swarming the place, but Tiger still has not been spotted. We have not independently confirmed the story. But I do hope this rumor is true. I`ve been saying Tiger should go to rehab since the beginning of the sex scandal. Check out this clip from my recent appearance on "The View."
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VELEZ-MITCHELL: This is the heart of the problem. He surrounds himself with codependents and enablers who are co-signing his bad behavior. This is the worst thing he can do is go off with guys who are going to say, "You`re right. You`re the victim here. You didn`t do anything wrong."
UNIDENTIFIED FEMALE: What do you think he should do?
VELEZ-MITCHELL: We should go to rehab, I think, for sex addiction. That`s my personal opinion.
UNIDENTIFIED FEMALE: Is that what you think he has?
VELEZ-MITCHELL: Yes. Absolutely. It`s a real thing.
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VELEZ-MITCHELL: I do believe sex addiction is a real addiction. Tiger allegedly slept with approximately 14 mistresses. Does Tiger need sex rehab? I want to hear from you at home. Call me, 1-877-JVM-SAYS. That`s 1-877-586-7297.
Now straight out to my fantastic expert panel. And boy, do we have a panel for you tonight. Noted addiction specialist Dr. Reef Kareem, who is the director of the Control Center in Beverly Hills, which is an outpatient treatment center. We also have model, actress, "Playboy" playmate and star of VH1`s "Sex Rehab with Dr. Drew." She has been through it, Nicole Narain. Thank you for coming in, Nicole, tonight.
Also with us tonight, "New York Post" advice columnist and former escort involved in the Elliott Spitzer scandal, Ashley Dupre. Welcome, Ashley.
But we begin with celebrity journalist Paula Froehlich. Paula, what is the very latest?
PAULA FROEHLICH, CELEBRITY JOURNALIST: Well, I`m sorry. I didn`t hear you. What?
VELEZ-MITCHELL: What`s the latest, honey?
FROEHLICH: Well, you know, I think that Tiger has finally faced up and gone to sex rehab, which is great. At the end of the day, obviously, something was wrong. He was married to an amazing, gorgeous woman who stood by his side, who did everything right, and yet he still felt the need to fool around with 14 women.
VELEZ-MITCHELL: Dr. Reef Kareem, a lot of people are casting judgment on Tiger. He`s losing endorsements: Gillette, AT&T, Gatorade, et cetera, Tag Heuer. Now GM is even saying, "Hey, you can`t drive our cars for free."
But if you`re really a sex addict, you are powerless over your behavior. So how can we blame something for something they`re powerless over?
DR. REEF KAREEM, ADDICTION SPECIALIST: Great question, Jane. This is such an important topic. It`s -- the question we should all ask, is it about the sex? Just the raw, primal act of having sex with a bunch of people? Or is this about his need for an emotional connection with women for a particular purpose that`s underneath all of the sex?
I get asked all the time, "Hey, Doc, am I a sex addict?"
And most of the time I go, "No, you`re just a jerk. You`re not a sex addict." Sex addiction, you know, it affects about 3 to 6 percent of the country. It`s not 100 percent. This is a small number of people, and it usually involves an underlying mental health issue: depression, anxiety disorder, ADHD, something else. And on top of it, they act out sexually.
Now, the other thing to keep in mind, he could be a jerk. He could be a sex addict, or he could be a love addict. Now, love addiction is this -- you know, it`s kind of this garbage-can term, but it carries some weight.
Basically, it just means these are people that are craving -- craving an emotional connection with someone, with anyone, because they don`t have the skill set to develop emotional relationships with people.
VELEZ-MITCHELL: All right.
KAREEM: And they will do anything to get that emotional connection.
VELEZ-MITCHELL: Very good analysis, Doctor. I want to bring in Ashley Dupre, who definitely knows what it`s like to, A, be at the center of a high-profile sex scandal. She`s the former escort who was involved in the scandal surrounding disgraced former New York governor, Elliott Spitzer. Now she is the new love and relationship columnist for "The New York Post."
Take a look at this.
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ASHLEY DUPRE, ADVICE COLUMNIST, "NEW YORK POST": Hi, I`m Ashley Dupre. I used to be on the front page of "The New York Post." Now I`m writing for it. That`s right. I`m the "New York Post" new advice columnist. Ask me anything about love, sex and relationships.
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VELEZ-MITCHELL: All right, Ashley, what`s your insight into the issue of powerful, high-achieving men with secretive, compulsive, sexual behavior? What do you think is driving this behavior at its core emotionally?
DUPRE: You know, I think it has to do with a lot of things. I think that, as with Tiger`s situation, it can be anything from, you know, something within his marriage, something that has -- has -- has sparked something from when his -- I mean, his father pushed him to come this amazing athlete, and he really didn`t have a childhood. This could be, you know, him acting out his childhood now.
And I want to bring in Nicole Narain, who made headlines and sought help after a scandalous sex tape she made with movie star Colin Farrell that got leaked. Nicole got treatment on VH1`s "Sex Rehab with Dr. Drew." Let`s take a look at her rehab experience.
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NICOLE NARAIN, MODEL/ACTRESS: For me it`s like, well, I don`t know how you talk about this stuff.
DR. DREW PINSKY, DOCTOR/TV PERSONALITY: Sure, of course. And I`m sure you were threatened, too, by some of these people, right? You deserved that, did you?
PINSKY: No kid deserves that.
PINSKY: So you`re making a connection between those traumatic experiences and your sexual experiences today?
NARAIN: Oh, yes, uh-huh. Definitely.
I`m not just an object! You can`t just use me! I`m a human being!
PINSKY: You`re going to be OK.
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NARAIN: It`s like so hard to hear that.
VELEZ-MITCHELL: Wow. A definition of addiction is you`re powerless over the behavior. Nicole, first of all, thanks for your courage in talking about this openly and honestly. It`s not easy to talk about embarrassing things.
NARAIN: It`s really not. It`s not easy at all. And it was really difficult, and I`m really proud of myself for going through that. And a lot of people say, "I could never do that." But, you know, I did that for myself and I didn`t even realize that I could -- I would help one person. And the feedback I`ve gotten has been really amazing. So...
VELEZ-MITCHELL: Tell us about your sex addiction. That`s a big, vague term. What can you tell us? What do you feel comfortable telling us about it?
NARAIN: Well, I was -- when I spoke to Dr. Reef, it was funny, because he said something kind of interesting to me. It`s not how much sex you`re having but why you`ve been having sex.
And for me, I fell more into the category of love addiction, where I`m -- I have abandonment and intimacy issues, so -- which are really, really difficult for me, because the trauma that follows behind that is -- takes a long time to get over and let alone to understand. So I was dealing with those -- with those issues at hand.
I don`t -- I`m not going to say that sex addiction doesn`t fall into, you know, love addiction at times, but I definitely fall more into the category of being a love addict, because I do have my abandonment, intimacy issues.
VELEZ-MITCHELL: You would have relationship after relationship the way Tiger is alleged to be doing, not just a one-night stand but getting in deeper?
NARAIN: Yes, it`s not about one-night stands or anything like that. It`s about having relationships and you want them to work.
And as far as, you know, I mean getting married, I mean, I don`t know. I think sometimes in this society when you`re doing so well in your career, people push you to make -- to make sure that your image has this glow around it. So it`s like, you know, maybe he didn`t want to get married and someone said, "You need to get married and have kids. It`s the next step." And...
VELEZ-MITCHELL: I want to go back to Ashley. Ashley, do you sense with a lot of these high-powered men that it`s really a facade, and behind the accomplishment is a very insecure person, maybe even a nerd? Some people have said -- yes, go ahead.
DUPRE: Absolutely. I mean, they can be very shy growing up in high school, the nerd, and then they have all of this -- all this -- they`ve achieved so much and they have this power. And, you know, they have the control now.
I mean, you see it with, you know, parents when they have children young. They -- you know, the kids grow up and they leave. And the only thing that they know is how to be a parent. So then they go into, like, this mid-life crisis of going out drinking.
And then you have the people on Wall Street who, you know, have been in school their whole lives and, you know, you see them out in clubs. And they`re partying, and they`re doing drugs. And, you know, because they didn`t have a little bit of that growing up. It`s like now that they can have that, it`s like a huge abundance.
And it`s -- I think it`s also, too, it`s triggers, you know. I mean, he -- you know, for me, for anybody who has any kind of addiction, you have to realize there`s so many triggers out there. And once you can hone in on that and recognize what they are, then you can start to work on that and steer away from that.
VELEZ-MITCHELL: Well, I want to know what a trigger is with sex. I mean, you know, with alcohol, it could be a drink. With drugs, it could be a drug. What is it with sex? Is the golf star in rehab for sex addiction?
Hang in there, fabulous panel. Should he be in rehab? More on this Tiger Woods scandal in a moment. We`re taking your calls: 1-877-JVM-SAYS, 1-877-586-7297.
Plus, on a totally different story, much sadder note, hundreds of thousands possibly dead after an earthquake in Haiti. How we can help? We`ve got a very simple way that you can help.
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UNIDENTIFIED MALE: He had to sleep in the car. He slept in his car last night. It`s real bad. There were houses around him, and the city, the roads, dead people around. You know, people are screaming for help.
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TIGER WOODS, PROFESSIONAL GOLFER: Hey. It`s Tiger. I need you to do me a huge favor. Can you please take your name off your phone? My wife went through my phone and may be calling you.
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VELEZ-MITCHELL: Is he in sex rehab? That`s what "People" magazine is reporting.
Tiger allegedly cheated on his wife with a laundry list of mistresses. Many of the women coming forward say it was more than just a one-night stand. Listen to one of Tiger Woods` alleged girlfriends on NBC`s "The Today Show."
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CORI RIST, ALLEGEDLY HAD AFFAIR WITH TIGER WOODS: He did not approach me. He sent somebody over who was supposedly his trainer and just said, you know, "Tiger Woods would like to meet you, and would you be interested in having a drink with him, him and his friends?" And I agreed.
He immediately just pursued me. And he would call and text and invite me on trips with him. And we built a friendship, and that`s how it all started.
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VELEZ-MITCHELL: All right, phone lines lighting up. Phil, Ohio, your question or thought, sir?
CALLER: The biggest thing I was just happy that Tiger is in rehab, maybe get his life straight. I think it`s wrong what he did, and I think it`s going to take a long time for people to actually forgive him.
VELEZ-MITCHELL: And Paula Froehlich, I think there is this tendency for people to not take sex addiction as seriously as they would alcohol and drug addiction.
CALLER: I agree.
VELEZ-MITCHELL: Go ahead.
FROEHLICH: I think that basically, it just sounds funny. People are like, sex addiction? How can you be addicted to sex? That`s so fabulous.
KAREEM: Hey, Jane...
FROEHLICH: But I think at the end of the day, it`s just basically, he`s in -- he`s in in-patient therapy.
VELEZ-MITCHELL: Now, I`ve got to go to my big issue.
VELEZ-MITCHELL: All right. Dr. Reef, jump in.
KAREEM: Yes, Jane, this is -- this is actually a big debate in the scientific community. You know, we have a DSM-V, which is coming out in a couple of years, which is kind of the manual for psychiatric disorders and addictive disorders. And nobody knows if they should put sex addiction in it. Because really, your other guest is right.
We call it compulsive sexual behavior or hypersexual disorder or something else. because sex addiction just -- oh, he`s a sex addict. He`s a nympho. He`s a womanizer. He`s this, he`s that.
KAREEM: This is a serious medical condition also, Jane. Research shows executive functioning, the way that your brain actually processes information in somebody who is a sex addict is altered in a large group of these people.
VELEZ-MITCHELL: And there`s a cultural issue here. There`s a cultural issue. This brings me to my big issue tonight. Is there a locker-room mentality in sports? It sometimes seems professional athletes are given a free pass to cheat on their wives and have sex with as many women as they want. And there are a lot of examples.
Basketball legend Wilt Chamberlain wrote a book bragging about bedding more than 10,000 women. Shaquille O`Neal is in the middle of a messy divorce. A woman has just come forward claiming she had an affair with Shaq, accusing him of threatening her when he thought she got pregnant. Here she is on TMZ for a moment.
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VANESSA LOPEZ, CLAIMS HAD AFFAIR WITH SHAQUILLE O`NEAL: I was never frightened or scared of Shaquille O`Neal before September 29th, 2009. My life has changed so much because of what I had to endure since then. I used to walk down the street not looking back over my shoulder. Now I fear that someone is after me. At home I`m constantly looking outside to see if there`s a strange car parked. I want this to be over. I want to feel safe again.
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VELEZ-MITCHELL: And that`s, of course, Gloria Allred, her attorney.
We have reached out to Shaq`s people. We have not heard back.
I think, Ashley Dupre, society sends mixed messages to these high- profile athletes. And that confuses them. What are they supposed to do?
DUPRE: Now, I think that the main issue is there are the people who mess around just because they can mess around, and then there`s the real sex addicts. And, you know, I hope that the people that get caught messing around, you know, they don`t use, "Oh, I`m a sex addict" as an excuse. These people have real problems, and I believe that we do need to focus, you know, on sex addicts as a real addiction.
VELEZ-MITCHELL: Well, Nicole Narain, you went to VH1`s "Sex Rehab with Dr. Drew." We want to understand. I`m a recovering alcoholic. I know what it`s like to have a craving for alcohol. But, you know, we all crave a lot of other things. How do you know when your craving for sex has crossed the line into an addictive craving as opposed just a healthy impulse?
NARAIN: Well, I mean, you`re crossing the line with your -- you find yourself, you know, acting out impulsively if you`re out. You can be out and if you`re not somebody -- let`s say you`re prone to, you know, maybe a one-night stand, but then you decide at that moment like, "I`m going to do this."
VELEZ-MITCHELL: What was your trigger?
NARAIN: There are so many triggers. I mean, it`s...
VELEZ-MITCHELL: Give us a couple.
NARAIN: It`s as simple as maybe going out to -- going to a party and, you know, seeing -- seeing -- watching people have cocktails and drinking. And then some people are dressed productively and, you know, skin is a huge trigger. Just in general, just somebody`s skin, like enough skin shown is a trigger right there, like the midriff or, you know, breasts.
Or, you know, it could be like, you know, what -- you know, right down to like even a guy, like the kind of shirt he has on, you know. The smell of their cologne. You know, these are all triggers, you know.
DUPRE: It`s the same thing as a bottle, you know, to an alcoholic or whatever.
DUPRE: It`s skin. It`s they`re addicted to sex. Who -- I see your boobs. They look good. You know, that`s the focus. That`s the focus.
VELEZ-MITCHELL: All right. Thank you, fantastic panel. We`ve got to switch gears here to a terrible tragedy going on in Haiti. But the good news is we`re going to show you how, with your cell phone, you can help save lives, next.
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UNIDENTIFIED FEMALE: The world is coming to an end!
UNIDENTIFIED MALE: Everybody got scared. I never saw such a thing in my entire life. You know, that was like the end of the world. Actually, when it took place like everybody was just doing their normal thing, and all of a sudden, we heard that noise.
I mean, myself, first of all, I thought it was a plane, you know, landing. And then all of a sudden, everything was just falling apart, you know, all over the place. You know, people was crying and, you know, the roof like the ceiling was falling, and there was no place to hide.
UNIDENTIFIED MALE: Everybody was shaking, like thinking that we were going to die.
UNIDENTIFIED MALE: It`s a major catastrophe for Haiti. We have gone through all of this before. I`m quite sure that the Haitian people, courageous as they are, will come out of it in unity.
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VELEZ-MITCHELL: Utter and complete devastation in Haiti. The numbers are mind-blowing. Hundreds of thousands of people could be dead. A massive earthquake ripped through the capital city.
The images of the aftermath are just heart-wrenching. Schools, hospitals, homes, completely leveled. Bodies piling up in the streets.
Tonight on ISSUES, we`re going to go straight to a solution, how you at home can help. All you have to do is head over to CNN.com/impact. Again, CNN.com/impact. There you will find links to all sorts of charities helping with the relief. Pick one.
Also, if you`re missing relatives, we have the phone number listed on that site so you can get in touch with your loved ones, or try to anyway.
Another really cool and easy way to donate was set up by Haitian-born singer Wyclef Jean. All you do is text the word YELE -- that`s Y-E-L-E -- to the number 501501, and it will automatically charge your phone $5 and donate it to earthquake relief. Again, you can see it there on your screen, YELE. And you send YELE to 501501. It`s so easy I did it twice today. It literally took me ten seconds each time. If I can do it, anybody can do it.
And for all you adults out there, if you can`t text, ask your kids. They will help you. So we can really help the people of Haiti.
Joining we now with more on this devastation, Stephane Guerrier. Her entire family in Haiti. She`s been desperately trying to get in touch with them.
Stephane, thank you for coming here on this heart-wrenching day. Did you finally get through? And if so, what did you learn about your mom and your siblings?
STEPHANE GUERRIER, FAMILY IN HAITI: I did. Hi, Jane.
GUERRIER: I did get through at 3 p.m. today. They actually called me. They heard -- they felt the shake. They ran out and basically the roof just caved in. So now they`re homeless, and it`s real sad, because here`s nothing we can do right now. I have to basically wait for them to call.
And it`s just really hard. And I just hope that they do call and at some point be -- I`ll be able to get money to them in some kind of relief. I mean, I just feel helpless right now.
VELEZ-MITCHELL: Your mom is on the street with your siblings, literally walking on the street.
GUERRIER: Yes. And all they do is pray. I mean, it was a really brief conversation, but that`s just all they could relay to me.
VELEZ-MITCHELL: Well, I just want to say thank you for coming in. We want to help your mom and the other people of Haiti who have survived but are homeless now. Go to CNN.com/impact.
Coming up, a beautiful young model murdered after leaving a club. We`re going to talk to her niece next.
VELEZ-MITCHELL: A killer on the loose as Playboy model Paula Sladewski`s family pleads for answer. The beauty`s brother begging anyone with information, "please come forward". The 26-year-old found murdered in Miami; her body burned beyond recognition. We`ll talk to a close family member about this horrific case.
And she`s just 23, but is Heidi Montag addicted to plastic surgery? The reality TV star underwent surgery for the second time but this time, she had ten procedures in one day. Why would this already beautiful star want a total transformation? More on her new look and what she has to say about her painful journey.
Tonight, a family`s heartbreaking search for a ruthless, sadistic killer. Beautiful, 26-year-old playboy model Paula Sladewski was reported missing ten days ago. Hours after that her body was found inside a Miami dumpster, burned beyond recognition. This is the kind of nightmare no family should have to go through.
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KELLY FARRIS, VICTIM`S SISTER: She did not deserve to die in this way. We can`t even give her an open casket. We can`t even see her again. I can`t see myself going back to work. I can`t -- I can`t see myself living a normal life until I know whoever did this is -- pays for it.
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VELEZ-MITCHELL: Police say Paula and her boyfriend Kevin Klyn got into a boozy argument inside a downtown Miami club. They were escorted out of the club separately.
Here`s some grainy surveillance video of Paula being led out about 20 minutes after her boyfriend Kevin was 86th from the club. Kevin says he took a cab back to their hotel and never saw her again.
Police are now focused on a mystery man seen with Paula outside the club at about 7:21 a.m. on Sunday, January 3rd. We`re told to expect a sketch of that man any day now.
What`s the holdup? There is a sadistic killer walking the streets. We need that sketch now.
I am pleased to welcome my fantastic panel: criminal defense attorney Jayne Weintraub; Judge Greg Mathis from "The Judge Mathis Show" and I`m honored to welcome Paula`s niece, Britanny Pyzick.
Britanny, we are so very sorry for your loss. We are doing this story over and over again because horrifically there are so many violent crimes against women. If they don`t get a break, sometimes the case goes by the wayside. Nobody talks about it anymore.
We want to keep it alive. Here are some pictures of your aunt and you together. You guys were very close. Tell us about your aunt Paula, because we`ve been hearing so much talk about oh, she`s out at a nightclub in the early morning hours, she was drinking but you were very close to her. Tell us what she was like.
BRITANNY PYZICK, VICTIM`S NIECE: She was just a wonderful person, always wanted to have fun. She was very fun to be around, funny. She loved to travel. She, you know -- she was just a beautiful person; smart, funny, kind.
VELEZ-MITCHELL: Was Paula with her killer outside Club Space? That is the big question.
Listen to the police theory and then what Paula`s brother, your uncle, thinks about that.
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LT. NEAL CUEVAS, NORTH MIAMI POLICE DEPT: We have reports of Paula walking away from the front of that nightclub with a person that was described only as a black male. The investigators will be working and are working with those witnesses to put together a sketch composite so that we can release that to the media and identify and locate this individual who could very well have some significant information concerning her murder.
THOMAS BUSSELL, VICTIM`S BROTHER: She just walked out by herself and, what, just picks up John Doe off the street? No way.
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VELEZ-MITCHELL: Britanny, your uncle does not buy the story Paula just walk away with some mystery man outside the club. You were close to her. What do you make of it all? Do you think it`s possible if she had been drinking and she didn`t have her cell phone, because her boyfriend reportedly took that, that she might have accepted a ride from some stranger?
PYZICK: She may have. She was very trusting. She trusted people. She didn`t, you know, believe that anyone could do something like this. She didn`t believe in bad in people. She always saw the good in people, so she may have trusted someone. They may have offered her a ride or told her something. Who know what they may have told her.
VELEZ-MITCHELL: Paula`s brother has some advice in the Miami area. There is a killer on the loose. Here he is on NBC`s "Today Show".
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BUSSELL: Watch your daughters. Watch your sisters. You`ve got the Super Bowl coming down there. You`ve got spring break right around the corner. And if my -- if my little daughter -- I have a stepdaughter, if she had come to me and said, "Tom, I need money to go down to Miami for spring break," I`m telling her to pick another state.
Because there`s a killer still running around; he`s eating, he`s breathing, he`s living. And it`s not fair that my little sister is dead, burned beyond recognition, because of some coward.
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VELEZ-MITCHELL: You can hear the anger in your uncle`s voice. That`s totally understandable.
How are you dealing with these emotions, the frustration of not knowing?
PYZICK: It`s hard. How can you deal with not knowing what happened to her, who took her, you know, the last moments of her life. You can only imagine terrible things. There`s no way to deal with it.
VELEZ-MITCHELL: Jayne Weintraub, you`re down there in southern Florida. What`s the scene down there? I mean, this is a club where this woman was at the club at 7:21 in the morning. I didn`t even know clubs were open at that hour.
JAYNE WEINTRAUB, CRIMINAL DEFENSE ATTORNEY: Well, actually, it`s obviously after hours. It`s after the long evening, that`s when they`re finally stumbling out.
But I`ll tell what you the setup is, and I`m glad you asked. The Bureau of Tourism obviously is not advertising these spots.
It`s a horrible neighborhood. It`s off the expressway. It`s about ten minutes from downtown Miami, bad neighborhood. Where she went was continuously in a bad area, and where the dumpster wound up. That is not somewhere she would have gone with somebody to take a ride towards the beach.
It`s the opposite direction from the beach, which brings me to the fact of the dumpster`s approximately ten minutes from Club Space. If her ex-boyfriend or the boyfriend took a taxi, which they did confirm from Club Space to Miami Beach over to the beach, it would take him probably 12 to 15 minutes to get to the beach. They`ve confirmed that that taxi took him back to the hotel.
What I`m saying, Jane, is that there`s no way when she walks out 20 minutes later on that video, there`s no way that it`s with the boyfriend. It`s probably somebody that the bouncer saw.
VELEZ-MITCHELL: Right. That`s -- the mystery man is not the boyfriend. We know that. He was technically considered a person of interest but Judge Mathis, it`s pointing away from the boyfriend and towards this mystery man.
I don`t understand why authorities haven`t been able to come up with a sketch. I always hate to use, judge, just a person`s race because it paints with a wide brush a whole bunch of people who have nothing to do with this. And it`s just -- it`s hurtful and not helpful.
JUDGE GREG MATHIS, HOST "JUDGE MATHIS SHOW": I agree. You know, I`m always concerned that there`s a conclusion based on race. However, I don`t want to second guess the Miami police but I really think there`s some investigative flaws here.
One, you have all of these people outside of a club and no one can say they saw her get into a car and saw the color and the type of car? This woman is provocatively dressed. She`s a very beautiful woman. She just had an altercation inside with her boyfriend.
Everyone knows who she is. She`s been escorted out by the bouncers. They know who she got into the car with, somebody saw something and I`m not sure the investigators are doing their best.
WEINTRAUB: Well, there`s an abandoned car with a plethora of evidence and I`m sure the North Miami police are working on that as we speak Jane.
VELEZ-MITCHELL: Well, they haven`t found an abandoned car. If they did, that`s news to me.
WEINTRAUB: There`s an abandoned car that was reported a couple of hours ago that was near Club Space that they are digging up. I`m sure they`re looking for fibers, not just the suspect but -- or potential suspect -- but they`re looking for fibers that match clothing that might not have been charred.
VELEZ-MITCHELL: You are bringing us breaking news from southern Florida because that is not being widely reported at this time. Let`s hope they have a break in the case for the sake of Britanny and her family.
We`re going to stay on top of this. This is the war on women, and we`re going to fight back. Thank you panel.
Jon Gosselin`s New York apartment ransacked. He says his ex- girlfriend did it; the NYPD not buying it. What`s their evidence that it was fishy business?
And reality star Heidi Montag says she`s obsessed with plastic surgery, obsessed. We`re talking ten surgeries in just one day.
I`m taking your calls on plastic surgery addiction. Is it a real addiction? 1-877-JVM-SAYS, 1-877-586-7297.
VELEZ-MITCHELL: Addicted to plastic surgery? Reality TV star Heidi Montag says she is obsessed with being physically perfect. And we`re going to talk to a woman who has gone under the knife for 47 different procedures. Why does she do it? We`re going to ask her.
That`s coming up but first, "Top of the Block" tonight.
If you thought Jon Gosselin was full of you know what, you`re apparently not alone. Apparently the NYPD agrees with you. Back in December, Jon claimed his apartment was viciously ransacked by jilted lover Haley Glassman.
Now check out this photo from Radar Online; pretty messy, huh, pretty dramatic? Complete with the cliche butcher knife stuck into the table. Well, it turns out cops say this entire story is BS.
According to Radar Online, police now saying Gosselin staged the entire thing. You have got to be kidding me. This was the day after Christmas.
Let me get this straight, instead of spending time with your eight kids and playing with their new toys, this guy was allegedly tearing apart his own apartment, and for what? Publicity?
Gosselin`s attorney tells ISSUES this was not a publicity stunt and he is 100 percent certain that when all of the security tapes and evidence come out, we will see that this was indeed a vicious attack on poor Jon. The NYPD says it`s an open case.
And that is tonight`s "Top of the Block."
Oh, yes. Turning now to Hollywood`s crazy and mind-boggling obsession with plastic surgery; can you imagine ten plastic surgeries in one day? Well, imagine it.
Reality star Heidi Montag is so proud of it, she`s on the cover of "People" magazine boasting about her perfect body and she admits to "People" she is absolutely beyond obsessed.
Is she addicted to plastic surgery? You make the call. She`s 23 years old. She`s already had more than a dozen procedures.
And here`s the before and after look; sure, she looks different but does she looks better? And was any of it necessary? Personally, I think she looks cuter in the before picture, but that`s just me.
So what is it with the need to look like a Barbie doll? She tells "People" magazine she did it to be able to compete in Hollywood. Hmm, Montag`s rise to fame started when she joined MTV reality show "The Hills". She`s now married to her cast mate Spencer Pratt.
And here she is on "The Joy Behar Show" in November.
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HEIDI MONTAG, REALITY TV STAR: None of us are perfect. And I think that`s the thing with Christianity, is we all make mistakes and none of us are perfect. And it`s a crazy world we live in.
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VELEZ-MITCHELL: And is she making it crazier? What has she done? Take a look at the list: a mini brow lift, botox, nose job revision, fat injections, chin reduction, neck liposuction, ears pinned back, breast augmentation, revision, more liposuction and a buttocks augmentation. At what point do we call this an addiction?
Joining me now my fantastic panel: plastic surgeon Dr. Linda Li, who is also featured on E Channel`s "Dr. 90210" -- welcome; we`re back with psychiatrist and addiction specialist, Dr. Reef Karim; and the one and only Ashley Dupre, the former escort involved in the Eliot Spitzer sex scandal turned columnist for "The New York Post". Who better to weigh in on the world of celebrity scandals and Jenny Lee, not to be confused with Dr. Li. She has undergone 47 plastic surgeries but says she is not addicted.
Jenny, you are a plastic surgery veteran. Why would somebody have ten surgeries in one day, a La Montag?
JENNY LEE, HAS HAD 47 COSMETIC PROCEDURES: I would say probably so that she would have one recovery time. I think it`s a lot easier when you`re going to have multiple plastic surgeries to go ahead and get it all done at once so that way you have one recovery time instead of nine or ten. So it just seems to be a little bit easier recovery to do it that way.
VELEZ-MITCHELL: Listen, I don`t like to judge about any of this. And I know, Jenny, you were concerned if I was going to grill you. Actually, I`ve had a facelift -- there, I`ve said it. About nine years ago...
LEE: I`ve had a boob job.
VELEZ-MITCHELL: Ok, well, you`ve had 40 -- haven`t you had 47 procedures?
LEE: Forty-seven, yes. And, you know, I think everybody in Hollywood...
VELEZ-MITCHELL: I had one. I had one.
LEE: Everybody`s Hollywood has had something done.
LEE: Whether you admit it or not is another story.
VELEZ-MITCHELL: Look, I had one little pullback. And guess what, you at home if you think I need another one, you write me and I will go and get another one but not before I need to.
That`s the crucial difference. I`m doing it because, look, anybody who`s on TV who`s my age -- and I guess you`ll have to go to Wikipedia to look that up, is either had some work done or they put a little -- what do you call it, Vaseline on the camera lens. It`s one or the other, all right?
So Dr. Reef Karim, let`s go back...
DR. REEF KARIM, PSYCHIATRIST & ADDICTION SPECIALIST: Yes.
VELEZ-MITCHELL: ... to the before-and-after picture. It still boggles my mind that this 23-year-old, ok, felt that she needed to do this. This is a pretty drastic change. Look how beautiful she is.
VELEZ-MITCHELL: And Heidi tells "People" she went under the knife to feel better about herself; that she used to be an ugly duckling. That she has a lot of insecurities. That people used to make fun of her. Isn`t this really more about what`s going on inside, internally than externally?
KARIM: Bingo, absolutely. I`m getting asked more and more by plastic surgeons because I`m a psychiatrist and an addiction specialist to look at and do an assessment on potential plastic surgery candidates before they engage in all of the surgical procedures, because the insides aren`t going to change just because your outsides change.
KARIM: You`re still -- you`re still that depressed person.
KARIM: You just have big boobs now, but you`re still depressed.
VELEZ-MITCHELL: Speaking of boobs, Ashley Dupre, I admitted that I`ve had one procedure. I heard you somewhere...
KARIM: So I had to go there.
VELEZ-MITCHELL: ... where were you?
ASHLEY DUPRE, INVOLVED IN THE ELIOT SPITZER SCANDAL: I had my breasts done.
VELEZ-MITCHELL: Ok. What were you before and what were you after? I mean, were you an A to D?
DUPRE: I was a D, ok perfect example, I got it done -- I got my breasts enlarged when I was 18. And I got them anywhere "D," and I actually went back and redid them to make them smaller. I went from originally a "B" and now I`m a small "C."
VELEZ-MITCHELL: You had a breast reduction?
DUPRE: I -- yes, I took the implant out that I first got when I was 18 and I made them smaller because I want to be natural. I mean, I think - - I think in this case Heidi`s a year younger than me. I mean, you have to step back and she`s had ten procedures. I mean, you have to love yourself and feel naturally beautiful.
VELEZ-MITCHELL: Now, I just want to make sure I understand you right. You had two procedures. One to enhance your breasts and then after you got them enhanced you decided...
DUPRE: They take -- take them out...
VELEZ-MITCHELL: ... they were too big and you...
VELEZ-MITCHELL: ... had them taken out and got a smaller breast size?
DUPRE: Yes, yes.
VELEZ-MITCHELL: Wow. All right. Well, I thank you for your candor. I`ve been candid and I appreciate you being candid. If we`re all being candid, we won`t have any secrets. What will we have talk about?
How about my "Big Issue"? When does an obsession become an addiction? The criteria of addiction is really escaping from reality with mood- altering substances or mood-altering behaviors and then continuing that cycle of binging and wanting more, remorse then you get the withdrawal. And it`s a cycle that goes round and round from binging to remorse to withdrawal.
The element I do not see here, Jenny Lee, with Heidi Montag, is remorse. She just says she wants more and more and more. She says she`s going to go back and get more surgery for her breast.
LEE: Well, the one thing about plastic surgery is I think I use the analogy it`s like almost a train you get on. Once you board the train you`re pretty much on the train until you call it quits for plastic surgery all together.
And the reason why I say that is because you have to maintain the surgery that you have. Once you have breast implants you`re supposed to replace them every eight to ten years, so, you know, there`s things that have to be done continuously in order to maintain what you`ve already -- the look that you`ve already...
VELEZ-MITCHELL: Right. And there`s also dangers in involved. When we come back we`re going to talk to Dr. Linda Li, a noted plastic surgeon about some of the dangers. And we`re also going to have more on Heidi Montag`s surgery spree and what might motivate somebody to really change their body when they`re already beautiful from the start. Is it an inside job that they`re seeking? We`ll discuss and take your calls.
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MONTAG: I would go back and actually we both tried to go back after I was hospitalized because we wanted to finish it out for our charities and to try to finish the show because it`s a great show; and we felt very honored to be a part of it. For my health reasons the doctor said I was not allowed to go back in the jungle.
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VELEZ-MITCHELL: That was Heidi Montag and her husband, Spencer Pratt on "LARRY KING" talking about their stint on the NBC reality show, "I`m a Celebrity Get Me out of Here".
That beautiful young woman has had a dozen at least cosmetic procedures; ten in one day. That is causing the phones to light up. Bob in Oregon, your question or thought, sir.
BOB, OREGON (via telephone): Question, I`m confused. I thought it was a comment.
VELEZ-MITCHELL: Comment. Make a comment then.
BOB: Ok. Michael Jackson, he is proof that it`s an addiction. The guy was good looking and he just kept going and he kept going and kept going. Most of us don`t feel okay looking in the mirror. That`s just the way we are, but to spend lots of dollars to fix it, I think that`s a mistake because you never get to where you want to be.
What I`m saying, as a 55-year-old who wants a facelift, go for it. But 10, 15...
VELEZ-MITCHELL: Dr. Linda Li -- thank you, caller. That was good; very well said. Dr. Linda Li, how do you as a surgeon decide they really need this plastic surgery or they`re addicts and I have to get them out of my office?
DR. LINDA LI, PLASTIC SURGEON: needs plastic surgery. Everybody wants it. It`s really about meeting expectations. If you can meet their expectations then you should do the surgery. If their expectations are unreal then you need to re-evaluate them.
VELEZ-MITCHELL: Yes, you know, but it can be addictive in a sense that tattoos are addictive. It`s called individuating your body. We`re powerless over what gender we were born, our basic features, our skin color, so there`s a sense of powerlessness. But with a tattoo you can say, I`m now controlling my body. I think it`s the same thing with plastic surgery.
LI: Absolutely, but at some point in time plastic surgeons have to take responsibility and tell patients that that`s all that we can do.
KARIM: I agree.
LI: I -- you have to deal with your own issues.
VELEZ-MITCHELL: I know plastic surgery can be deadly and I`ll get your comment in a second.
You know, when it happens during an elected procedure it makes you wonder why people take the risk. Take a look at former Miss Argentina. Solange Magnano died last December after undergoing a procedure on her rear end. This is tragic because she was already gorgeous. She had a successful modeling agency. She had twin daughters and that one last trip to the plastic surgeon ended it all.
Jenny Lee, you had 47 procedures. Did you ever fear for your life?
LEE: You know, I never feared for my life. I`ve had -- prior to having plastic surgery I`d had many surgeries as a child and as a young teen and, you know, I`ve always had a ton of faith in my plastic surgeon and the anesthesia team...
VELEZ-MITCHELL: Do you feel more beautiful?
LEE: Today, yes, I do. I mean, I`ve come to terms with the fact that my reflection is, you know, is -- lies to you. I like to do a lot of photo shoots for photo therapy and realize that that is the real me. So, you know, it`s -- I think you -- it`s all relative in the big scheme of things. Whatever makes you happy.
VELEZ-MITCHELL: Ten seconds, Ashley Dupre. You`re beautiful. Do you think you`re going to do other surgery or wait until you`re in your mid- 50s?
DUPRE: Maybe when I`m mid-50s I`ll do a little mini facelift. But this is a problem that I have. You have someone like Heidi Montag. She`s on MTV and she has so many little girls looking up to her. And for her to publicly come out and say I had this, this and this, the message that she`s sending to these little children -- they don`t look like that.
VELEZ-MITCHELL: We`ve got to leave it right there. Tomorrow night, Dr. Drew Pinsky -- we`re going to talk addiction again.