I don't own my child's body

Some experts advise parents not to make their children hug or kiss relatives.

Katia Hetter is a CNN features writer who covers parenting, relationships, books, entertainment and travel. This story has been updated from a version published in 2012.

(CNN)My daughter occasionally goes on a hugging and kissing strike.

She's 7, and she's been holding these wildcat strikes since she was 3 or 4. Her parents can get a hug or a kiss, but many people who know her cannot, at least not all the time. And I won't make her.
"I would like you to hug Grandma, but I won't make you do it," I first told her three years ago.
    "I don't have to?" she asked, cuddling up to me at bedtime, confirming the facts to be sure.
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