Single people use smartphones' connectivity and location services to meet potential dates
Phones help singles to find someone who's available, and nearby, at a moment's notice
Divulging sensitive information like a GPS location can raise serious security concerns
New apps appeal to people who think of dating as an active, spur-of-the-moment pursuit
Malia checks Blendr, the location-based networking app, on her phone six or seven times a day, sorting through messages from strangers who know she’s in their vicinity and responding only to the ones who don’t seem creepy.
Though she is surrounded by people in Los Angeles, the 23-year-old waitress finds that her smartphone is still helpful for meeting new friends or potential romances.
“I catch happy hours with people, meet friends, maybe go on dates here and there,” explained the woman, who asked that her last name not be used. “You meet a lot of people who are very spontaneous.”
Online dating used to be largely a deskbound activity. But in recent years, mobile apps like Blendr have employed constant Internet access and location-based services to turn the smartphone into a wingman of sorts. Phones now give singles the ability to find someone who’s available, and nearby, at a moment’s notice, bringing a bit of serendipity back to the Internet dating scene.
Profile-based dating sites such as Match.com and eHarmony suffer from a courtship delay. After you open an account, much of your time is spent browsing and filtering – tentatively messaging strangers, screening them on the phone and over e-mail and instant message before finally setting up coffee dates with the few deemed worthy. This extra caution is probably smart, but it discourages spontaneity and leaves almost too much time to rule people out based on picky details.
But today’s mobile location apps, which work with a phone’s built-in GPS, connect lovelorn singles who have something more urgent in common: proximity.
The gay community was first to recognize the potential for location-based networking. The popular gay-meet-up app Grindr was released in 2009. Grindr taps into the smartphone’s location information to show to-the-point profiles of men in a certain radius who are available to meet.
“Grindr solves a very big problem in the lives of gay men,” explained Grindr chief executive Joel Simkhai. “How do I find other gay men?”
The app has been a global success, with 1.1 million daily active users in 192 countries (that means just four countries don’t have at least one person on Grindr).
With a few tweaks – beefed-up privacy settings, expanded profiles – Grindr then rolled out Blendr for straight singles. The straight app hasn’t been as huge of a hit just yet (though it’s doing especially well in Australia).
OkCupid, one of the hipper, younger-oriented dating services, also made its own location-aware app last year called OkCupid Local. Users can find people nearby who are on the service, and the app recommends potential dates by using data users provide when filling out extensive profiles.
Match.com and eHarmony have also gone mobile, but their apps are still more like window shopping – flipping through profiles and judging the ratio of wit to sincerity, seeing what the algorithm has to say about your chances of hitting it off – than finding a potential romance in the coffeeshop down the street.
Other startups have recognized that the desire to meet new people isn’t limited to dating. Highlight shows mini-profiles of people, including friends and strangers, around you on a map. Ban.jo pinpoints nearby people who are in your existing social networks, including Twitter, Facebook and Foursquare.
For all these apps, divulging sensitive information like a GPS location raises serious security concerns, such as the potential for stalking or worse. In July, social-networking app Skout had to ban minors after three men were accused of sexually assaulting children they met through the service. The Skout service for 13- to 17-year-olds was suspended.
There are privacy concerns as well. People are frequently unaware of just how much identifying information they post on the Internet by checking into social networks and sharing photos whose metadata reveal where they were taken. As with going to a bar and talking to the first stranger you find with decent hair, people should use caution.
While location-based dating apps have a reputation of being just for people who want to hook up, users say they’re increasingly using them for more G-rated purposes: to make friends. According to Grindr’s internal research, members make one to five new platonic friends though the app.
Simkhai fires up Grindr when he’s in a new country to get restaurant recommendations and other tips from locals. Malia met one of her closest friends on Blendr and will sign on during trips to Vegas just to network, she said.
Location data isn’t required to make the smartphone useful for meeting people. Phones also facilitate a longstanding challenge of courtship: the exchange of numbers. Instead of scribbling digits on a soggy cocktail napkin, smartphone owners can use Bump, a mobile app that lets you exchange contact information easily by bumping two phones together. Bump was an early hit in the iPhone app store and has been downloaded more than 100 million times.
“It fits very well with that moment where you’re nervous and want to meet someone new but don’t know how how to approach them and ask for a number,” said Bump CEO Dave Lieb, who believes his app turns the act of bumping phones into a flirty, fun act.
The Internet gave birth to some great helpers for shy people looking for love – chatrooms, dating sites, instant messaging, missed connections posts on Craigslist. But the new generation of dating tools appeals to people who think of dating as an active, spur-of-the-moment pursuit that takes place in the fluid world of bars, parties and other social settings.