- The proliferation of dating apps like Tinder has created an easy marketplace for casual sex
- Mel Robbins: Human behavior has not really changed, you don't need app to be promiscuous
The article, by Nancy Jo Sales, looks at how apps like Tinder, Hinge and OkCupid have created an unbelievably easy marketplace for casual sex. The most alarming aspect of the article is that it reads as 100% accurate. Moreover, the issue that the article nods at, but doesn't dig into, is that dating sucks for women.
Take Alex, for example, a guy on Wall Street who tells the reporter that he's sleeping with 100 women a year, thanks to the larger "sample size" of women he can swipe through. From the article:
"Guys view everything as a competition," he elaborates with his deep, reassuring voice. "Who's slept with the best, hottest girls?" With these dating apps, he says, "you're always sort of prowling. You could talk to two or three girls at a bar and pick the best one, or you can swipe a couple hundred people a day -- the sample size is so much larger. It's setting up two or three Tinder dates a week and, chances are, sleeping with all of them, so you could rack up 100 girls you've slept with in a year."
Among many young men, these apps seem to be leading to "gorging ... a kind of psychosexual obesity," according to author Christopher Ryan. These guys call the women they bed "Tinderellas." Except -- there's no fairy tale ending for the women.
Now, you may think that these apps have fundamentally changed human behavior, but I do not.
Rock stars and professional athletes have enjoyed easily accessible casual sex for decades. These apps just make it available to the masses. Besides, you don't need an app to be promiscuous. And you don't need Tinder to sleep around. People have been doing it for ages.
If I think back to the dating culture two decades ago, it wasn't pretty. There were plenty o