Think you're a great gift-giver? Probably not

Story highlights

  • Givers are all about the moment, but recipients consider long-term value
  • Asking what someone wants is the best way to give a gift they wish to receive

(CNN)If you're stressed about finding the perfect presents for your friends and loved ones this holiday season, ask them what they want. It could save you a lot of trouble in the long run, according to a new study.

Even the most well-intentioned gift givers don't always give their friends and loved ones what they really want. But it's not for a lack of trying -- it's more of an "expectations vs. reality" dilemma, according to researchers from Carnegie Mellon University and Indiana University.