I kept walking and saw that several fully armed soldiers were pointing their rifles at my family. The soldiers ordered me to stand next to everyone else, and soon a rifle was pointing toward me.
My dad then appeared at the top of the stairs. And there was a soldier behind him too. He led my dad outside and put him in the back of a military truck. No explanation given.
We didn't know it at the time, but my dad would be one of the first Eritreans to be forcibly expelled from Ethiopia in 1998. A border spat between the two countries blew up into an all-out war that summer.
That conflict eventually killed an estimated 80,000 people
, and it continued until this July, when Eritrea and Ethiopia declared that their "state of war" was over
A few weeks after they took my dad, they came for my mom. She told the soldiers they'd have to shoot her if they didn't let her bring her youngest child. My little brother was five at the time. He and my mom spent the night in prison.
The next morning, they were put into crammed buses and sent off on a three-day journey on a treacherous route. They were driven north, directly into the war zone. When they got to the border, the Ethiopian soldiers wanted to provoke the Eritreans into shooting up a bus full of civilians, so they started shooting in the air. Thankfully, their bus crossed the border sans bullet holes.
By the end of that summer, some 70,000
Eritreans and Ethiopians of Eritrean descent had been forced out the same way.
But younger Eritreans in Ethiopia had bigger worries than just being sent to a new country. If they went to Eritrea, they'd be forced into the army. And if they stayed, they feared the Ethiopians would jail them so they wouldn't go fight for the other side. For this reason, countless people scrambled to leave, including the rest of my siblings.
A UN-brokered peace agreement paused the fighting in 2000. Part of the deal was to let an independent commission demarcate the border. The commission finished its work two years later and issued what was supposed to be a "final and binding" ruling
. It awarded several territories, including the flashpoint town of Badme, to Eritrea, but Ethiopia refused to accept the decision.
So, for the last two decades, a tense stalemate has been the law of the land on both sides of the border. Eritrea had been independent from Ethiopia for just five years when the war began, so there hadn't been much of a border before that. The sudden shutdown of that border meant countless families found themselves suddenly divided. Phone services cut off. Ground transportation halted and flights grounded -- for 20 years.
Now, things are suddenly changing.
Within the last few weeks, leaders of those two countries have taken serious steps toward peace. Ethiopian Prime Minister Abiy Ahmed has only been in office since April, but he's been enacting sweeping changes. His major foreign policy objective at the moment is peace with his northern neighbor. In June, he declared Ethiopia would finally accept
the border ruling, essentially ending the 20-year stalemate.
A few weeks later, he hosted a high-level delegation of Eritrean officials. Shortly after that, Abiy flew to Eritrea, where he was treated like a rock star. Thousands lined the streets of the capital, Asmara, to get a glimpse of the man whom they credit with pushing their long-time stubborn leader toward peace.
A week later, Eritrean President Isaias Afwerki was in Ethiopia. A packed and festive crowd awaited him -- ecstatic because this leader's presence on their soil meant he really was ready for peace. Before he returned to Eritrea on Monday, he was on hand to witness
the reopening of his country's embassy.