"Internally, it was destroying me and so I decided to come out," she said. "When I was younger and struggling with my truth I couldn't look up and see anyone vocally out there that looked like me or felt like me. I believe that I needed to be that for others."
Bogle-Mienzer, now 52 years old, is a police officer by profession and community activist by passion. She's also one of just a handful of people who have married a partner of the same sex in Bermuda.
Their numbers may never increase, because Bermuda is the only country in the world to have first introduced, and then revoked the right for same-sex marriages.
It's been a back-and-forth issue since 2016 for the North Atlantic island of approximately 65,000 people.
In June of that year, then-Premier Michael Dunkley, who supports same-sex marriage, called a non-binding referendum on the issue.
The vote was deemed invalid because less than 50% of the electorate showed up, but of the 20,800 people who did, nearly 70%
voted against same-sex marriage.
Dunkley said his intention for the referendum was to open up the conversation.
"I thought it was appropriate to allow people to get involved in the subject," he told CNN.
"I tried to break down the barriers of people saying, 'It's in the closet, leave it there.' That's why we had public meetings and that's why we went forward with the referendum to try and get people to talk about it," he said.
In the July of that year, with same-sex marriage still illegal, Winston Godwin, 28, and Greg DeRoche, 31, applied to marry on the island, hoping to take their case to the country's Supreme Court.
"When I first moved back [from Canada] in 2016, I was so confused as to why people felt they need to have so much of a say in who I wanted to marry," Godwin said. "I'm not trying to marry you. I'm not trying to turn the world on its head. I'm literally just trying to marry one person."
The Supreme Court heard their case and in May 2017 it legalized same-sex marriage.
But the socially conservative Progressive Labour Party was elected in July 2017 and pushed through a law eliminating same-sex unions and replacing them with domestic partnerships in November of that year.
As a British Overseas Territory, Bermuda creates its own laws, but all must be endorsed by the appointed British governor. The law change was debated in the UK Parliament and eventually ratified, taking effect in June 2018.
Premier David Burt, leader of the Progressive Labour Party, defended the government's position. "No matter what people want to say about what the referendum meant, the votes recognized that a vast majority of Bermudians were actually opposed to [same-sex marriage]," he said.
"But the government balanced the need for same-sex couples to have legal rights and legal benefits against the construct of the thought of the public," he added. "It's still my belief that we arrived at the most applicable solution."