'A legal form of abuse': Conversion therapy is lurking in the shadows

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(CNN)For months, someone was trying to change Andy Taylor's sexuality. He just didn't know it.

"I had no idea what was going on," Taylor recalled, thinking back to a series of unnerving one-on-one meetings with a church leader in Liverpool, England, in 2012. "Even after I quit, I didn't fully realize that what I went to was conversion therapy."
But he was sure of one thing: "I just knew I didn't like it."
    Taylor, an openly gay man in his early 20s, had been involved with a local church whose leaders had encouraged him to take therapy sessions. Unbeknownst to him until he stepped inside, the sessions were intended to make him believe that he was straight.
    These so-called conversion therapies, also known as reparative treatments, rely on the assumption that sexual orientation can be changed or "cured" -- an idea debunked and discredited by major medical associations in the UK, the United States and elsewhere.
    During his meetings, Taylor says, he was asked to recount childhood traumas and to discuss in detail his sexual experiences with men. "They knew what outcome they wanted... They looked for big emotional buttons to press, and they would just pick at them until I started crying," he said. Those events and insecurities were then connected to his sexual attractions.
    "When was the first time you saw your mother cry?" Taylor recalls being asked before having his answers maneuvered toward a pseudo-psychological conclusion. "You have an overabundance of compassion, and you interpret that to mean you're sexually attracted to men," he was told.
    "It makes absolutely no sense, but at the time, it seemed totally logical," Taylor said, and it led him to the seemingly natural conclusion that his sexuality "was bad" -- and that he had ought to resist it.
    "It came from someone I trusted," he said. "I had no reason not to believe him."
    That trust persevered even as Taylor's mental state didn't. He began having thoughts about self-harm and vivid dreams about suicide, falling into a period of depression. "I went to three or four sessions before it started to disturb me."
    Eventually, he started to question the logic behind the sessions. "I'm pushing myself towards this goal which makes me incredibly uncomfortable, and the journey makes me feel horrific," he remembered thinking.
    "It just felt so wrong. It felt like someone twisting a knife in me."
    About six months after his first meeting, while signing into another, he realized that he couldn't continue.
    "Looking back, it's one of the most manipulative things anyone's ever done to me," he remembered.
    Taylor's experience is jarring, but it isn't uncommon.
    Studies have found that efforts to change a young person's sexuality can put them at a greater risk of depression or suicide. Despite being condemned by medical bodies and having its science debunked by experts worldwide, the practice is legal throughout most of Europe, where campaigns and petitions to halt it exist in several countries.

    In the shadows

    One in 20 LGBT people in the UK has been offered conversion therapy, and an additional 2% have taken part in it, according to a survey of over 100,000 people by the UK government in 2017.
    "Tens of thousands of people said they had been offered some form of [conversion] therapy," a government spokeswoman said in a statement to CNN. "It is shocking to hear people are being exploited in this way after opening up about their sexuality or gender identity."
    But she added that the therapy represents "a complex set of issues with lots of grey areas" - namely, that unlike the military-style camps in the United States, the practice often occurs in the shadows across the Atlantic.
    Led by the "ex-gay" movement in churches, the controversial service is offered discreetly by religious leaders and psychotherapists and sometimes not even explained to its subjects, as was the case with Taylor.
    "These things aren't advertised in the phone book," he said.
    Matt Ogston, 40, created a foundation campaigning for a ban on conversion therapy in 2014. That year, his partner, Naz Mahmood, had been urged to find a cure for his sexuality by his Muslim parents, who discovered the treatments online and through word of mouth.
    Matt Ogsten and his former partner Naz Mahmood, who had been urged to find a cure for his sexuality by his parents.
    Mahmood, 34, killed himself days later.
    "It's very clear to see the impact that parents can have on their own children when they think they have a disease," Ogston said. "We hear countless stories from individuals who come forward asking for support, where their families threatened to kill them, in some instances."
    Ogston had protested, sent petitions to government, and met with cabinet ministers to make his case, to little avail.
    Then, last July and seemingly out of the blue, the UK government made the announcement he had been waiting for years to hear: it planned to ban conversion therapy in the country.
    The relief of the news, however, soon turned to frustration.
    "It was a very welcome step, but it feels like an empty promise at the moment," Ogston said, complaining that his organization has worked to discuss the details of the pledge with the Government Equalities Office (GEO), but hasn't heard back. "You'd expect them to be reaching out," he adds.
    A GEO spokeswoman told CNN that the government is now assembling its LGBT advisory panel of experts, whose first task will be establishing the path forward on banning conversion therapy,
    It has also begun "commissioning new research into the experiences of those who have undergone conversion therapy to help us better understand how we can end these practices for good," she added.
    Ogston is urging that the issue is kept atop the political agenda.
    "Every day in the news we can see why this is not their priority -- you can see where all their energy is," he says, referring to the attention-sapping saga of Brexit. "But it should be given priority... the government should be there to protect its citizens."
    "It's not a fringe issue -- it's an issue that isn't being talked about enough," he concludes. It's a legal form of abuse -- and it has to be stopped."

    'It was all underground -- until we investigated'

    If the UK bans the practice, it could prompt a wave of similar legislation across Europe. But it won't quite make Britain the continent's pacesetter.
    That mantle belongs to Malta -- a tiny island nation in the Mediterranean with a population of just over 400,000 -- which made history by implementing a nationwide ban on conversion therapy in 2016.
    "I knew [conversion] therapy existed, but I didn't know it was happening in Malta," said Equalities and European Minister Helena Dalli, who created the law. "It was all underground ... until we delved into it and investigated."
    Dalli was driven to legislate after a man visited her to share his experience of the practice in the predominantly Catholic country. As a teenager, he'd attended a number of traumatic sessions with a therapist, he said -- and was even shown a video of homosexual sex and told to induce vomiting.