New Year's resolutions, for couples

Patrick Swayze and Jennifer Grey in the movie "Dirty Dancing" remind us to be present with and focused on your partner as a resolution for the new year.

(CNN)Heading into the new year, I find myself working with so many couples that are burned out, fed up, and feeling that their relationship isn't as good as it could be. They don't like their partners as much as they used to, they've lost the thread of the relationship with so much else going on, and some wonder if they should still even be together. No wonder the current movie "Marriage Story," about a couple embarking upon divorce, has struck such a cultural nerve.

In his book and TED talk, "The Element," Sir Ken Robinson explores when people feel most themselves and most inspired to achieve at their highest levels. He draws on stories from a wide range of people, from former Beatle Sir Paul McCartney to Matt Groening, creator of "The Simpsons," and many others who figured out how to get in their "element" -- the point at which natural talent meets personal passion.