(CNN)As the nation shuts down and loved ones huddle to weather what may well be weeks of coronavirus-induced isolation, family tensions are rising.
How do you manage fighting kids during a lockdown? We asked the experts
Like a canary in a coal mine, children are often the first to respond negatively to any strain on the family unit -- so parents, don't be surprised if your children are already fussing and fighting at levels well above their normal sibling squabbles.
"Sometimes parents feel like, 'Oh my God, like, how could you guys be having this argument right now? Like right now when I'm in this moment of, like, panic about the coronavirus? What is wrong with you?' " said pediatrician Dr. Jenny Radesky, a spokesperson for the American Academy of Pediatrics.
Here at CNN, many of us are parents too. Just like you, we are staring in shock and awe at our children as their tempers explode. Just like you, we need parenting advice as we try to work from home and juggle homeschooling, meal prep and family dynamics while worrying what to do when the toilet paper runs out.
That's why we reached out to top experts on child development to ask them this simple question for us all: "Please, can you help?"
"First of all, if parents are acting stressed and anxious and fighting, the kids are going to do that too," said pediatrician Dr. Tanya Altmann, editor-in-chief of the American Academy of Pediatrics' book "Caring for Your Baby and Young Child: Birth to Age 5 and The Wonder Years."
"The first thing is to take a look at how you're behaving as parents in your house," Altmann said. "A lot of times when a household is chaotic, it's because of what's coming from the parents."
What if you're not aware of being outwardly anxious?
"Check in with your body," suggests Radesky, an assistant professor of pediatrics at the University of Michigan with a pediatric sub-specialty in childhood developmental behavior.
"And I don't mean like fever, cough; I mean like are you feeling your heart pounding more in your chest? Are you feeling tightness in your muscles? Are you getting more headaches? Are you having more trouble sleeping? Are you feeling more of an upset stomach?
"These are all the ways stress affects our body's systems that we may not even be aware of because you get so used to this kind of chronic hypervigilance," Radesky said.
"Checking in with your emotions and making sure you're dealing with them in a healthy way will be the first preventative step towards eliminating lots of kid arguments," she added.
How can you tell if it's stress that may be driving your child's negative behavior?
"Are your kids kind of showing their usual stress behaviors?" Radesky asked. "Some kids get really defiant, others get more controlling or repetitive, always wanting to do the same thing the same way. Still other kids get clingy.
"My kids are like, 'Can we just play video games all day? Let us, like, zone out and not have to think about all this stuff.' And it's really tempting to want to just let them zone out. But we have to talk about it at some point each day," Radesky said.