(CNN)"Look for the helpers."
It's a good line. Thank you, Mr. Rogers. And its endurance isn't surprising.
The presence of helpers offers us hope in moments of chaos. The world might feel terrible right now, with a pandemic spreading across the globe, but, somehow, there are still people out there caring for others.
Better, those people think caring for others ---- the key ingredient of maintaining social bonds ---- is still worth their while. Their actions remind us that there will, after all this, be something left that's worth fighting to preserve.
Though helping shouldn't only be something that we admire from a distance. If and when we have the bandwidth to help — remember, you have to put your oxygen masks on first — there are a number of good reasons for all of us to give it a shot.
Doing good for others has the potential to boost our spirits and impart useful and hopeful lessons to our children during these scary and uncertain times.
Helping others makes us feel better
There is a large and well-supported body of research showing that doing good for others makes us feel better.
A 2016 study (PDF) using neuroimaging found that generosity makes us happier, a finding replicated by numerous other studies using other methodologies. Another study from 2009 tracked people ages 18 to 60, and found that those who perform acts of kindness felt more satisfied with their lives than those who did not. The list goes on and on.
Psychologists refer to this boost as a helper's high and believe our brain creates endorphins when we perform acts of goodness. The pleasure centers of our brains light up when we give.
Our children's brains are no different. There are numerous studies demonstrating generosity in children (PDF), and empathy starting as early as six months. But you probably don't need a study to tell you how good children feel when they give of their own accord. Think of those smiles.
Now, of course we shouldn't only give to others to help ourselves. In fact, research suggests that such attempts to game our generosity systems are unlikely to produce desired results.
But as we cobble together our family coping strategies right now, it doesn't hurt to keep in mind that well-intended attempts at generosity yield rewards for all parties involved. Sincerity is key, and it's the part that will be most tricky to teach to your children.
Encourage your children to become helpers
One of the easiest ways to teach your children to be helpers is by doing more helping yourself.
"Modeling, also called observational learning, is one of the most underestimated and poorly used tools by parents," said Alan Kazdin, professor of psychology and child psychiatry at Yale University.
Kazdin said modeling generosity can begin by simply appreciating generosity in others. Hear about something nice someone did for someone else? Point it out.
When parents do it themselves, they should make a habit of telling their children about it. Though, importantly, do not boast about it. "Be instructive, kind and gentle, rather than righteous," Kazdin said. (This should not be an opportunity for parents to toot their own horns.)
The amazing thing about modeling, Kazdin explained, is how it can teach our children skills without them ever a