(CNN)It took us about three days of social distancing before we decided to permanently relocate our coffee table to the corner.
The family dance party, once an at most weekly affair, had quickly become a nightly ritual and we needed our space.
There was the bouncing to Lil Nas X's "Old Town Road," the swaying to Antonín Dvořák's "Cello Concerto" (the kids are into it, I swear), and the tributary grooving to Bill Withers' "Lean on Me."
Most popular psychology today tells us to battle stress with calculated calm and solitude. We are to take a step back and observe the crashing waterfalls of our lives from a distance. Breath in. Breath out.
While it's true that mindfulness and meditation work, they're not cure-alls. Sometimes what we need to feel better is not detachment but other people and release. Sometimes we just need to dance.
Yes, there's science for music and movement to — as Madonna put it in "Like a Prayer," another house favorite — "take you there." This feeling is sometimes referred to as "collective effervescence," a term created by Émile Durkheim over 100 years ago to describe the feelings of euphoria people experience during group religious ceremonies.
When we share an experience with others, we tend to feel it more deeply and feel like we are connected to something larger than ourselves. The whole is greater than a sum of its parts.
It goes without saying that our opportunities to effervesce collectively have been exponentially reduced by social distancing. But for those of us living with our families or friends, not everything's off-limits. Really, turn off the lights and turn on Marvin Gaye and Tammi Terrell's "Ain't No Mountain High Enough," or Martha and the Vandellas' hit "Dancing in the Street," and I dare you to not effervesce.
Family dance parties — literally house parties — are giving us a chance to experience that special mix of connection and abandon on a regular basis. They're free, easy to execute and quite possibly the difference between my family holding it together and losing our minds during these extremely trying times. Here's why they might do the same for you.
Why dancing feels so good
When we move our muscles, our bodies release endorphins, and those endorphins make us feel good. This is the case whether we kayak, play baseball, or dance.
What makes dance special to this moment is that it's accessible — just clear out some space in your living room and turn on music — and it can be done together. And yet, somewhat paradoxically but also quite magnificently, it's a group activity that also allows for a lot of individual expression.
"What is unique about dance is that it is not just movement. It is movement that is connected to self-expression and our feelings," said Jody Wager, a board-certified dance therapist and director of the expressive therapy program at Dominion Hospital in Falls Church, Virginia. (Her favorite dance-along songs are Prince's "Let's Go Crazy" and "Cha Cha" from Balkan Beat Box.)
I know I'm not the only parent who has asked her kids about their day or how they are feeling and has received a bored stare in response. Sometimes they're just not in the mood, and sometimes they just don't know what to say.
While it's a parent's job to help children match words to feelings, it's also our job to help them express their feelings in other, nonverbal modes. This is especially the case in situations like our c