Pandemic parenting advice from a single mom

Bestselling author and single mom Rachel Simmons, shown here with her daughter Estee, talks about parenting during a pandemic.

(CNN)The coronavirus pandemic has presented many of us with an overwhelming amount of stress — but for a single parent juggling multiple roles, the stresses of parenting are even more intensified during a pandemic.

A single parent to an 8-year-old daughter, bestselling author and educator Rachel Simmons has recently been hosting webinars about pandemic parenting that make it clear how hard our jobs are right now.
"I ask myself, 'Where do I want to chill and where do I want to be strict?'" she told the parents at my daughters' school.
    "If your kid doesn't want to shower every day, you might say, 'Well, I can let that go, but I expect you to do a certain amount of schoolwork each day.' Right now, under Covid, it's especially important to reflect on where you want to relax some of the pressure."
      Rachel Simmons says getting through this pandemic can make kids more resiliant later.
      Getting through this pandemic together "will make kids more resilient later on — and us stronger," Simmons said. "One of these days, when we encounter adversity, we'll be saying, 'Well, this is nothing like coronavirus!'"
      Simmons' words inspired me to share her tips with so many other parents who are struggling, including single parents. I interviewed her after her virtual talk to learn more about how she's getting through this troubled time as a single working mother.
      This conversation has been edited and condensed for clarity.
        CNN: Being a parent is difficult right now. How is a single parent's life even more stressful?
        Rachel Simmons: The thing about being a single parent is that you are often everything to that child. So in a home with multiple caregivers, there can be a division of labor. One person might do the cooking. Another person might do the cleaning. One person might be better with discipline, and the other person might be more of the playful one.
        When you're a single parent, you have to inhabit all of those roles — and they often conflict. The need to clean up dinner makes it hard to read a book out loud or be there at bath time. You have to play a multiplicity of roles, and you're a single person. Now you are under unprecedented levels of stress and uncertainty — with your child at home.
        Her book helps parents raise strong girls.
        A single parent depends on help to accomplish her goals. And right now we have next to no help — so this can cut a single parent off at the knees. Because honestly, as a single mom, I'm only as good as the help I have. And right now you know, I'm not so good.
        CNN: You say it's important to have a daily routine, which makes kids feel more secure, and it's also a good time to explore new hobbies. How can single parents do that?