If losing your job to the pandemic destroyed your identity, here's how to find it

(CNN)"If I'm not (insert job title here), then who am I?"

This is the type of question some adults are asking themselves as they struggle through the darkness of losing a job to the pandemic.
Some never realized how tied their identities were to their careers until they lost them. They feel lost mentally and emotionally, as if they're experiencing a bad breakup. The present is surreal, the future is uncertain, and they're unsure how to define themselves.
    Christa Black, a freelance copywriter from Ashland, Kentucky, said her work shaped her identity.
      "I finally felt like a 'real' writer, because after several years of trying, I was actually being paid to do what I enjoyed and was good at," she said. "I started to feel less like an artist and more like 'a professional.'"
      But when the pandemic hit, the work faded away. Black's income decreased to little to none. She soon felt that she had lost her identity, that she was no longer a professional and that she didn't fit in with the creative community from which she had come.
      That might be because sudden unemployment is a threat to "narrative identity," said Jonathan Adler, a professor of psychology who specializes in identity and narrative psychology at the Olin College of Engineering in Massachusetts.
        "Identity is the story of our lives that weaves together the way we reconstruct our past, make sense of the present and anticipate our future," he said.
        That narrative identity is the confluence of you and the culture in which you live. We grow up in a sea of stories about what a typical life's journey looks like and what moments we're supposed to hold onto, Adler said, so we take the templates available to us and tailor our experiences to those master narratives.
        "We use our stories as the foundation for everything else that we do," Adler said. "So when you rock the foundation, everything else on top of that crumbles."
        Through some inner work, however, you can take back your worth.

        How our identities influence our jobs

        For some, jobs provide merely a paycheck. For others, occupations also supply a sense of meaning that holds weight when they think about their sense of selves.
        Our perpetually "on the grind" culture defines who we are by what we do for work.
        "The first thing we ask when we meet a new person is, 'What do you do for a living?'" said Nicole Hind, an Australia-based psychotherapist behind the online community, blog and practice Unveiled Stories.