It's time to give up perfectionist parenting — forever. Here's how

With the pandemic upending ingrained routines, perfectionists have an opportunity to reset their ways and build a healthier parent-child relationship.

(CNN)Before the pandemic, many of us found ourselves doing a little more parenting than we knew we ought to be doing.

Maybe we weren't full-on "helicopters" or "snow plows," and, no, we would never have done something illegal to try to ensure our kids' success.
Still, many of our parenting decisions — especially those of us privileged enough to be making lots of choices about our children's lives — were informed by more "shoulds" than "coulds."
    The diagnosis? Never-enough-itis. The symptoms? Busyness, guilt and deluding ourselves into thinking we could pull this off.
    Our kids, the magical thinking went, would be wildly successful, self-motivated and down-to-earth, and we parents would remain balanced and happy. Rising income inequality, a lack of community and the increasingly winner-takes-all atmosphere in which we live didn't help.
    But now, the chaos and suffering brought on by Covid-19 have laid bare just how impossible our parenting standards are.
    It has never been cle