Asian Americans are feeling on edge. How you can get help or help those in need

A January 2022 memorial vigil for Yao Pan Ma on the Harlem street corner where he was beaten. Ma, from China, was attacked while collecting cans and died from his injuries eight months later.

(CNN)Between a resurgence in anti-Asian violence and the anniversary of the Atlanta spa shootings, it's an especially fraught time for Asian American and Pacific Islander (AAPI) mental health.

Stop AAPI Hate, a center that tracks reports of racism and discrimination, recorded more than 10,000 incidents against AAPIs nationwide from March 2020 to December 2021.
Licensed clinician Jeanie Chang, a marriage and family therapist based in North Carolina who specializes in AAPI mental health, says she's seeing women in particular feeling more on edge than ever.
In this conversation with Impact Your World, Chang breaks down the trauma individuals are experiencing, offers clinically backed coping techniques she uses in her own practice, and suggests practical ways allies and workplaces can offer meaningful support.
The following conversation has been edited for length and clarity.
CNN: In a general sense, what are your Asian American clients telling you about how they're feeling right now?
Jeanie Chang, LMFT: I sense a little bit of a heaviness, feeling like no progress has been made. They feel like things are still as racially charged. We're still seeing a spike in anti-Asian violence. The safety issue has been a thing, psychological safety and physical safety.
I see quite a bit of Asian DEI (diversity, equity, inclusion) leaders and there's discouragement as well. They feel like they got the attention right after Atlanta, and of course May (Asian/Pacific American Heritage Month). And it's a little bit hurtful or disappointing when the talk stops, right?
And now the one-year anniversary is here. It is a huge deal, and yet a few folks have said they're not going to really commemorate it. API (Asian/Pacific Islander) professionals are actually in distress because of the lack of attention or feeling ignored, neglected, invalidated.
Q. How do these big dates or anniversaries affect collective trauma?
The definition of trauma is anything distressful. People think it's this dramatic thing like you have to witness a national disaster. No, it could be what's distressing to you.
Secondary trauma is a little bit more immediate. We can get traumatized as if we are literally there witnessing it or it happening to us just by viewing graphic material. There's also vicarious trauma -- I'm seeing that quite a bit at this time -- where that's long-term trauma. There's also racial trauma, being exposed to racist attacks, innuendos, expressions, and that also has been a big part of the pandemic.
Overall, that means people are much more sensitive, ultra-, hypervigilant. We all experience it differently, because we're all different people. It's part of our experience.
Perhaps the Atlanta anniversary retriggers that horrified feeling that we had as a nation a year ago -- and as APIs going, "nobody seems to understand me." The event can be retriggering, but I'm thinking the space we're in that has not quite progressed.
Demonstrators attend the 2021 AAPI Rally Against Hate in New York. The Asian American-Pacific Islander community is  comprised of more than 50 ethnicities.
Q. How does the "model minority" myth compound Asian American mental health?
The model minority myth is a stereotype started in the civil rights movement (era) by an American White sociologist. The origin of it is harmful because you're pitting Blacks against Asians, pointing out to Black Americans, "Look, these people are hardworking and they listen and they don't cause trouble." So that has carried with us since 1965.
That stereotype is we are model citizens, we don't rock the boat, we work hard. So the minute people see us, the assumption is, we're good, we're fine, we're well off, we have no problems.
But it can be very distressful. When an Asian American or API needs assistance in schooling, they actually get ignored, because they're like, "You're Asian, I think you're fine." And that has led to a higher suicide rate.
It also perpetuates mental health stigma: "I shouldn't get help because I'm supposed to look good," the saving face mentality that also exists in our culture. So we're kind of a double whammy of feeling stuck.
As we know, we are very different people. Stereotypes are harmful and false. The bottom line is our identity is multilayered, like anyone's identity.
Q. What kinds of coping strategies do you recommend to your clients?
I think it's really important to practice mindfulness, which is also rooted in East Asian culture. It's so powerful, the practice of trying to ground yourself in the present moment.
Science shows your brain is depleted of oxygen when you're in distress. So deep breathing is the first thing I teach, something like square breathing or box breathing, which is big in the military. When you inhale, you inhale slowly. Your chest should be puffed out when you inhale for four counts. Then you hold your breath for four counts, four seconds, and then you exhale it all out for four counts. So that one round is 12 (seconds). And you do it four times, like a square. You have time to practice breathing for 48 seconds.
It can change your brain. You can rewire it. And so when we get a little technical with neuroplasticity, the wires in our brain, super important to know that there's hope despite the trauma you've been through, that you can definitely manage it through the practice of mindfulness.
Another coping skill is the butterfly hug. This is based on eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR) therapy. Anybody could do it. You're hugging yourself like a butterfly, but you're tapping with bilateral stimulation to ground yourself. It's a self-soothing technique for any stressful incident that you may have experienced to bring you back to the present moment.
Not everybody does this, but I like to add affirmations. And especially as Asians, we're not good at affirming -- if anything, we bring ourselves down a lot by saying we're not good enough. Say in your head as you're breathing things like, "I am strong. I'm good enough. I'm smart." Say whatever affirmations come to your mind, starting with "I" because it's about you.
Q. What can allies do on an individual level? And what should they be mindful of in their approach?
I know you care. I know you want to ask your API peers. Go ahead. And you can even preface it by saying, "I'm not sure this is the right way to ask." Just be honest, but ask. Because overall, when you don't ask, it does come across as you don't care. It's just simply as "how are you feeling about what happened?"
You don't need to offer solutions. I'm revealing a therapy secret: validation is probably the number-one thing people come in for, to have their stories heard. So when you do that as an ally or friend or peer, my goodness, they will feel really connected. But if you feel like you have something to offer, you could say, '"I'd love to help." That's different.
They can also choose to educate themselves a little bit, reading an article or brushing up on how to pronounce the Atlanta victims' names. You bet that Asians will notice, and then there's an affinity.
So it doesn't take rocket science. That's why I think people don't do it, they think it's much harder than it is. I just want you to have conversations. But I do want you to make some effort.
Allies also know, culturally speaking, it's not easy for us to share. We're not used to being asked. But the more you do it, more you practice it, the easier it gets.
Q. How can workplaces offer meaningful support?
Number one starts with leadership. They're the changemakers. So what I say to leaders is because yo